So… I started a YouTube Channel

Just in case you didn’t know I started a YouTube channel lol. I still can’t believe it because I never saw myself as a YouTuber, if I can even call myself that yet. Writing has always been more of my comfort zone and the way that I express myself best. I tend to have a difficult time putting my thoughts into words, but what better way to challenge myself and step outside of my comfort zone than to do something that’s uncomfortable and unfamiliar, right?!

One of the main reasons for starting She Experienced, the YouTube Channel, is because of our fertility journey. On this journey, I went to YouTube in search of other women who were dealing with or have dealt with infertility and while there were so many amazing YT channels with inspiring stories of women dealing with infertility, there was a very low representation of African American women. I had a very hard time finding women of color sharing their infertility stories and more specifically going through IVF. I realized how much infertility is NOT talked about in the African American community and there is so much shame surrounding this taboo topic. I feel that God led me to be that representation for women of color and to break down walls of shame and embarrassment over something that is very common and affects many more than we realize.

In walking this path I had to address some of my own ignorant biases or ways of thinking about fertility treatment that I believe is rooted in spiritual beliefs in the African American community. This was not something that was taught to me or even talked about in my family, but I believed that fertility treatment was outside of the will of God and taking matters of conception into your own hands instead of allowing God to work. Like where did that thinking come from?! As I said, this wasn’t something that was taught to me, it was just a belief that I had – maybe something I saw or heard somewhere, I don’t know. But the Lord had to check me on that and questioned how can I be an advocate for seeking mental health treatment but believe that it was wrong to seek fertility treatment. Both involve seeking the help of a professional in an area where you have a need. Why is one okay but the other is not? God calls people to many fields of service to help those in need and seeking help or treatment for an area in your life where you can’t help yourself should be as normal as going to the doctor for a broken leg.

With all of that being said, on my channel, I plan to continue to share our journey and talk about all the ups and downs and experiences from my perspective as well as Joe’s. We also realize that men don’t often talk about their feelings, especially about a topic as sensitive and vulnerable as this. God has chosen us for this journey and we are going to continue to honor Him with our transparency, our encouragement to others and our crazy faith. We want to continue to shed light on something that affects so many couples in hopes that no one ever has to suffer in silence or feel alone on this journey.

My channel will not only be about fertility, I do have some different videos planned and am looking forward to charting this unfamiliar territory! I appreciate everyone who has joined us on this journey, who is rooting and praying for us, and who has subscribed, commented and liked our videos. Much love to you ?

If you haven’t checked out my channel yet, catch up on my videos here.

Live well,